Kebiasaan yang Dijamin Menghancurkanmu (Kalau Niat Sekali)

🔀 Read in English 🇬🇧

Selamat Datang di Hajriah Fajar: Hidup Sehat & Cerdas di Era Digital

Kebiasaan yang Dijamin Menghancurkanmu (Kalau Niat Sekali)

Pernah nggak sih, lo sadar tiba-tiba udah dua jam ngeliatin video orang bersihin karpet? Atau nge-scroll akun aesthetic sambil ngerasa hidup lo kayak draft yang belum di-save? Gue sih sering. Dan anehnya, itu terjadi di hari-hari yang harusnya “produktif”.

Jadi gue mulai mikir: mungkin selama ini kita terlalu fokus nyari cara buat jadi “versi terbaik” dari diri sendiri — sampe lupa, ada kebiasaan-kebiasaan kecil yang diam-diam justru bikin hidup kita ngelipet kayak baju buru-buru. Dan yang paling serem: kadang kita ngelakuinnya dengan sadar. Kayak semacam niat nyeleneh buat sabotase hidup sendiri.

Yuk kita bongkar. Bukan biar makin panik, tapi biar bisa ketawa bareng sambil nyadar: oh, ternyata gue selama ini rajin banget… merusak diri sendiri.

Kalau Mau Hancur, Ini Jalannya

Serius, kalau ada lomba “siapa yang paling konsisten menghancurkan rutinitasnya sendiri”, banyak dari kita bisa dapet medali emas. Nih, beberapa kebiasaan yang bisa kamu tekuni kalau pengen hidupmu makin acak dan jiwa makin keriput:

1. Tidur bukan prioritas, tapi bonus kalau sempat

Tidur itu kayak temen baik yang sering kita PHP-in. Padahal dia yang selalu ada pas kita lagi overthinking jam 2 pagi. Kurang tidur itu bukan cuma bikin mata panda, tapi juga bikin otak lo kayak sinyal TV analog pas hujan.

2. Buka HP dulu sebelum sikat gigi

Niatnya liat jam, tau-tau udah nonton reels orang masak mi instan selama 40 menit. Gak heran kalau pagi-pagi rasanya udah capek — karena semangat lo udah dikuras sama konten yang nggak minta izin buat nongol di otak.

3. Nyoba semua aplikasi to-do list tapi tetep lupa ngapain hari ini

Gue pernah install lima aplikasi produktivitas. Hasilnya? Gue malah sibuk nyusun kategori warna, bukan ngerjain skripsi. Gue bikin to-do list, tapi malah jadi 'to-ignore' list.

4. Meeting dari pagi sampe magrib, kerjaannya kapan?

Kerja remote kadang jadi jebakan. Lo bisa kelihatan sibuk di Zoom, tapi kerjaan asli malah numpuk kayak cucian. Fokus itu kayak sinyal WiFi: kadang kuat, kadang ngilang pas dibutuhin.

5. Ngecek email 15 kali sehari. Padahal gak ada yang nyariin juga.

Kita butuh jujur: sebagian besar notifikasi cuma ilusi penting. Dan kadang… lo nge-refresh inbox cuma biar ngerasa berguna. Sadis ya, tapi ya gitu.

Refleksi Ringan Tapi Ngena

Kita hidup di era dimana kegagalan itu nggak harus dramatis. Kadang cukup scroll TikTok 3 jam sehari, lupa ngisi air minum, dan bilang “besok aja ah” ke semua hal penting. Pelan-pelan aja, hidup lo bisa runtuh — dan lo nggak sadar karena sibuk nonton lifehack dari orang yang hidupnya juga bingung.

Mungkin bukan soal cari cara jadi lebih sukses. Tapi sadar sama pola-pola kecil yang pelan-pelan nguras energi kayak tabungan kena biaya admin.

Checklist Anti-Sukses (Kalau Mau Dihindari)

Berikut beberapa hal yang bisa lo mulai hindari hari ini juga. Nggak harus semua sekaligus, tapi minimal sadar dulu juga udah bagus.

1. Bangun tidur langsung buka HP

Bikin ritual lain: nyium tangan emak, tarik napas, atau ngopi dulu sambil denger burung tetangga ribut.

2. Ngejar sibuk, bukan makna

Lo bisa sibuk seharian tapi gak ngerasa hidup. Kadang yang kita butuh bukan Google Calendar, tapi diem bentar buat mikir: “sebenernya gue ngapain sih?”

3. Pura-pura multitasking

Faktanya, lo cuma pindah tab doang. Bukan multitasking, tapi multi-tenggelam.

4. Nunda istirahat

Istirahat itu bukan dosa. Dan gak harus selalu nunggu burnout buat bilang: “gue butuh rebahan”.

Penutup yang Gak Sok Bijak

Hidup nggak harus rapi. Tapi kalau lo bisa ngenalin kebiasaan yang diam-diam nyabotase diri sendiri, lo udah setengah jalan buat lebih waras. Gak usah nunggu motivasi turun dari langit. Cukup berhenti sebentar, liat ke cermin, dan bilang: “kayaknya gue bisa lebih baik, kalau gak terlalu niat nyakitin diri sendiri lewat kebiasaan-kebiasaan kecil.”

Kalau lo ngerasa relate, atau pengen cerita juga soal kebiasaan aneh yang ternyata destruktif — drop aja komentar di bawah. Kita ngobrol bareng, gak usah jaim.

Welcome to Hajriah Fajar: Living Smart & Healthy in the Digital Age

Habits That Will Definitely Destroy You (If You’re Really Committed)

Have you ever realized you’ve just spent two hours watching videos of people cleaning rugs? Or scrolling through aesthetic accounts while feeling like your life is a half-saved draft? Same here. And weirdly, it happens on days when I’m “supposed to be productive”.

So I started wondering: maybe we focus too much on chasing “our best version” — and forget that tiny daily habits might be quietly folding our lives like clothes stuffed in a messy drawer. And the worst part? Sometimes we do it consciously. Like a lowkey plan to self-sabotage.

Let’s unpack this. Not to make you panic, but maybe we can laugh a little while realizing we’ve been religiously… ruining ourselves.

Want to Ruin Your Life? Here’s a Starter Pack

Honestly, if there’s a competition for “most consistent at ruining one’s own routines”, many of us would be gold medalists. Here are some habits you can develop if you want your life to unravel gently:

1. Sleep is optional — only if there’s time

Sleep is that loyal friend we keep ghosting. And yet it always shows up when we’re overthinking at 2 AM. Sleep deprivation doesn’t just give you panda eyes — it makes your brain feel like static TV in a thunderstorm.

2. Phone before toothbrush

You mean to check the time, but 40 minutes later you’re deep into noodle-cooking reels. No wonder mornings already feel exhausting — your energy’s been sucked dry by unsolicited content.

3. Download 5 productivity apps, still forget what to do

I tried five different to-do list apps. Result? I got busy color-coding categories instead of writing my thesis. Lists are nice. Ignoring them is nicer.

4. Meetings all day, but when do you actually work?

Remote work is a trap. You can look busy on Zoom while your real tasks pile up like dirty laundry. Focus is like WiFi: strong until you really need it.

5. Refreshing email 15 times a day. For what?

Let’s be honest: most notifications are fake emergencies. Sometimes you refresh your inbox just to feel relevant. Brutal, but true.

Reflection Without Being Dramatic

These days, failure doesn’t have to be epic. A few hours of TikTok, forgetting to refill your water bottle, and saying “I’ll do it tomorrow” to everything important — that’s all it takes. Slowly, life unravels. But you don’t notice, because you’re too busy watching someone else’s “day in my life” reel.

Maybe it’s not about chasing success. Maybe it’s about spotting the invisible leaks that drain us like monthly bank fees.

Anti-Success Checklist (If You Want to Avoid It)

Try skipping these habits today. You don’t have to be perfect — just start noticing.

1. Checking your phone first thing in the morning

Create another ritual: stretch, sip coffee, pet your cat, or listen to your neighbor’s rooster drama.

2. Chasing busyness instead of meaning

You can be busy all day and still feel empty. Maybe what we need isn’t a Google Calendar, but one honest breath: “Wait — what am I doing?”

3. Fake multitasking

Truth is, you’re just switching tabs. It’s not multitasking — it’s multi-sinking.

4. Delaying rest

Rest isn’t a crime. You don’t have to wait for burnout to say: “I think I need to lie down.”

Not-So-Wise Conclusion

Life doesn’t need to be neat. But if you can spot the little ways you sabotage yourself, you’re halfway to being less miserable. No need to wait for motivation from the skies. Just pause, look in the mirror, and whisper: “Maybe I’d be better off if I didn’t actively mess up my own day.”

If you relate — or if you’ve got absurd self-sabotaging habits to confess — drop a comment. Let’s talk. No filters needed.